Breaking Up
Breaking
up sometimes can be a good thing, but moving on after a break up is not
as easy as replacing your dress after it gets dirty.Healing after a
break up takes time. It takes a lot of courage and self-respect in
showing your ex that you already moved on. The important thing to
remember in a break is that it is not the end of the world life goes on.
Start a healing process by accepting the fact that the relationship has
ended. Be honest with yourself and reacquaint with the benefits of
being free of attachments. Allow yourself to cry to help you release the
frustrations and anxiety. Allow yourself to heal after you stop crying.
While
in the process of moving on after a break up try many different things
and accomplish something new in your career or personal life. Give
yourself plenty of time to heal and recuperate. Get yourself busy. Use
time to reflect on your life and set clear expectations for the
future.If you love books, buy yourself a good one or a great dress, or
the latest DVD movie.For the time being, be careful of the music you
play since this can manipulate your emotions. Take long baths or engage
yourself in a favorite pastime activities to relax yourself.
Involve
yourself into positive activities that makes you feel good. Clear your
minds of all negative feelings and do not drown yourself in alcohol. Go
out and have fun with friends and loved ones. Surround yourself with
people who understands your feelings and the emotions that you are going
through. Get rid of the pictures and other things that will remind you
about your ex.
When you are ready to moved on after a break up,
start dating again. Allow yourself to fall in love again and enjoy the
start of a new relationship, but know your intentions.Don't be afraid to
take risks. Take care not to be consumed in this new relationship, you
never know when another break up may happen again. Learn from your past
relationship but do not dwell from the past. Enhance the positive things
you did during the past and work on your weaknesses during the past
relationship. Before becoming involved in any one person, invite out a
variety of people and play the field well, be sure you've learned from
your past mistakes.
The most important key in moving on after a
break up is to forgive your ex for hurting you. Let go of all your anger
and bitterness towards them. Do not let a failed relationship scar you
for life. Save your friendship and do not end the relationship in bitter
terms as you might bump into each other again. It's a small world after
all, who knows the possibility of rekindling your relationship in the
future.
Learning from mistakes, enjoying the pro's of the
situation in finding yourself, and moving on is the secret to happiness.
Remember that a healthy relationship is one that adds to your life.
In : Relationship
Tags: break up; relationship